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I would guess that you have at least once sat down and pounded out an angry email and pushed send. Especially when it feels as if the author has thrown their words at around without thought of their consequence. Myself, when I am the recipient of hate email, I find that my breathing shallows and my fingers move with extra force while my mind races at super sonic speeds. I become determined to make the sender understand their transgression.
In my experience email can instantly destroy our sense of security.
I received such an email this morning sitting at my desk already a bit upset due to day to day worries. This email opened me up as if a sword had entered my belly. In this experience I found that the author had no problem telling me how it will be- while setting perimeters on what I can and can’t do from their view.
As I read their message my back stiffened and my heart raced. I read it and re-read it to be sure I could understand what was being said. Then I envisioned them sitting at their desk, pounding out their message feeling justified in their tone and temper. This email was sent after hours in the cloak of darkness and I began to imagine a story of them driving home feeling a sense of accomplishment by where they had shared what had plagued them- and had finally put me in my place.
After reading the correspondence I was face with the problem of how to calm down—wondering how I navigate the days work world after reading their message. If I am honest I must admit that I have used email as a weapon. I felt in those moments that I needed to communicate clearly a message that could be used later. As if what I sent would be proof of something I believed would be useful later to protect myself from harms way.
Only recently have I recognized that the only way out of these situations is through and to respond without immediate reaction. If I put aside my hurt, and pull back I generally can recognize that this person does not have the same skills as I do, and this is their only tool to communicate something important.
Once I take this pause, the healthy strategy is to back away from the key board, and recognize that my participation in only continues the harmful story. I have the power to find my way back from attack to the place of serenity. The serenity that comes from my knowingness that the Universe really does want the best for everyone.
The truth in these moments is that my desire for connection to the Divine is much more important than my email response. Because in these moments of reaction I would only add to the disconnection of us both.
Since their is no real emergency- I choose to give this situation some space. And then choose to breathe deeply and reconnect. The author needs more of the same, but the truth is that he will likely walk through life never experiencing the gift of the Divine spark intended for him to live his life with more ease. When I recognize his pain— I begin to feel differently.
Compassion changes everything… and it becomes clear that I am not a victim of circumstance. I have a choice to see with love… How lucky am I to have these gifts at my disposal moment by moment.
Remember that you have more tools for self-care and grace at your disposal than the person or people that send their fear through the electronic world.
Connection is your true power.
Serenity Lesson: You are in control of how you feel, regardless of what others say in the moment. Your happiness and serenity are always just a thought and a feeling away.
I would really appreciate you sharing how you deal with email hate mail.... Comments are mean so much to me--Thanks in advance.
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