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Enjoy A Little Peace & Ease
While on Your Journey to Become
Who You are Meant to Be....
Living in a very small home has required that I come to terms with my dust elephants (aka dust bunnies). We rent the cutest small house that unfortunately does not have the proper air exchange unit. I never knew how important an air system was until I started to battle the dirt and four years later, I have learned to live with it, mostly.
Standing on my couch in deep clean mode, duster in hand I brushed across the top of my window frame, and a new elephant herd was unleashed. I laugh now, but when we first moved into this space, I would get really upset. I had equated a clean home, with my self-worth. Making the visible dust growing hour by hour a regular aggravation. My inner mean girl was always screaming reminding me of my incompetence.
Watching this go on for a while my very wise husband asked- after he witnessed another tearful safari dust session- if I could allow myself to just live with it. Make the decision to come to terms with the fact this was clearly not a reflection of my effort or desire to have a dust free home. At first, this sounded like a crazy idea, but as I thought about it I began to entertain the idea that I could stop fighting and live with it.
Today’s dust shower reminded me of how far I have come. I still notice it, obviously, it is there in front of my eyes, but my reaction to it is not the same. I dust once a week and no longer feel bad that I can’t completely remove it. This issue is clearly out of my control and what is in my control is my reaction.
The reason I am writing is that I wanted to share an idea to explore that came from watching the dust fall to the floor. I wondered what in my work life resembles my battle with my dust? Taking it further— what " dirt" in my work life do I notice daily and want so very much to change? What is my inner reaction to not being able to change what brings me discomfort, stress or aggravation? Does this thing, event or person unbeknownst to them reflect somehow on my self-worth?
The answer to these questions was a resounding yes.
Sitting down, taking a break with a teacup in hand, I began looking at the areas this idea might apply and came up with a short list. Then I asked myself, what if I am never able to make the changes that I so very much want would I still be willing to look for and experience joy and fulfillment at work anyway?
If I have been able to successfully release control over my dust bunnies, maybe there is wisdom in recognizing that I can’t change contrary work practices on a dime or change that my co-workers will judge me regardless.
Maybe I can literally let the dust settle at work and find the places to focus that are within my control. Giving myself permission to revisit the issues every once in a while, just in case change is ready to unfold.
In the end- I can see that the battle happens inside of me and only I have the power to change how I experience the workplace dirt.
Your Tranquility Moment
Are there daily events or issues that seem to always creep up that disrupt your stress levels a work? Ask yourself-- Can you by worry or reaction actually change any of it? If no- how can you come to terms with letting it all be for a while?
Take this week to notice if you have any particular “work” dust bunnies. Write them down in a journal. Then play out on a separate sheet of paper your worse nightmare— explore what would happen if this does not change and you continue on as you are in this moment. Get as detailed as possible. When done, write the exact opposite, what is the worst that can happen if you decide to let this remain the same until the time is right to support the desired change.
Then take these stories and burn them after you decide the path you will take. If you decide to take a small break from feeling reactionary to these events- as you watch the papers dissolve and turn to ash, think about the lightness you feel with just simply releasing the need to do anything about it right now. Then place a date on the calendar when you will revisit this issue and decide next steps. If you decide to take action- instead of release that is good too. You now have empowered yourself to no longer feel like you are victimized. Either path- is a win, win.
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